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10 Ways to Fall Back in Love With Yourself

10 Ways to Fall Back in Love With Yourself

Prioritize loving yourself this fall.

"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." —Buddha

You are Iconic.
 We know this as a fact, but the truth is, often it’s easier to see the good in others than it is to see it in ourselves. Due to the constant barrage of images on tv, social media, and the internet, it feels impossible not to play the comparison game. From mommy bloggers packing the perfect school lunch to fitness influencers showcasing their perfect abs, many of us are ending our days wondering what we’re lacking and why we can’t be perfect like the people we see around us. 
Well, Beauty, we’re here to let you in on a little secret: you aren’t lacking anything. You are Iconic just as you are. The sad truth is that we exist in a world where it is more accepted to hate ourselves rather than love the person we are. And in the words of the most iconic, RuPaul Charles, “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?” It’s time to put yourself back on your list of priorities and fall back in love with yourself.

💖 10 Ways to Fall Back in Love With Yourself 💖

digital detox

Digital detox. Not only can being on your devices affect your physical health—eye strain, headaches, and back problems—it also has an incredible impact on our mental health. The constant stream of information and connection, while there are some benefits, can cause an increase in anxiety and depression. Try tucking your devices away at a certain time and spend your evenings with a book, a puzzle, or just spending intentional time with your loved ones. Delete all social media from your devices and see how you feel after a week without scrolling. See how much better you feel mentally and physically after focusing on yourself and not what’s trending.

 discover your love language

Discover your love language. While we usually learn about love languages when we are in a relationship with someone else, we think the most important relationship is with ourselves. Learn what your love language is and then spend time loving yourself in a way that you can receive it. You are in charge of how other people treat you, take the time to figure out how you want to be loved in order to share it with those around you.  

schedule you time

Schedule YOU time. We know this is easier said than done. Between work and family, sometimes it can feel impossible to even visit the bathroom alone! However, taking the time to check in with yourself can change the way you view yourself. Turn off social media, go on a walk, take a drive, or even just go stand in the backyard for ten minutes. Allow yourself to listen to your own thoughts and recharge. Taking the time to get in touch with yourself can help keep you calm and collected in the fray of everyday activities. 

positive affirmations 

Positive affirmations. We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again, we love affirmations. The beauty of affirmations is it’s not as important to believe what you’re saying as much as it is to want to believe what you’re saying. Sit down and envision yourself at your very best. What does that look like? Make a list of affirmations and read them every morning and before bed. Scatter them all over your house, leaving sticky notes on your mirror reminding you how powerful you are until one day, you don’t need the reminder anymore. 


Meditate. Meditation is a powerful tool that has been used for thousands of years to train your mind to focus and redirect your thoughts. Using breathing and stillness, creating a meditation practice can reduce stress and anxiety. It can also assist in pulling your thoughts from dark places and focusing on the positive. One study has shown that those who meditate experience fewer negative thoughts when shown a negative image compared to those who have not meditated. 

 make a list of your accomplishments

Make a list of your accomplishments. It’s time to be your biggest cheerleader. Sit down with a pen and notebook and list your accomplishments. Did you get the kids to school on time today? Way to go, queen! Did you start a hobby you’ve been interested in? Maybe you landed your dream job. Big or small, all of your accomplishments matter. Listing them out and seeing how much you have done is a self-esteem booster and can help you feel a sense of pride. Keep this notebook nearby and add to your accomplishments every day. If you ever begin to feel as if you’ve failed, open it up and see the proof of how accomplished you truly are. 

stop negative self talk 

Stop negative self-talk. If you wouldn’t talk to your loved ones the way you talk to yourself, it’s time to make a change. When you catch yourself beginning to speak negatively about yourself, stop and think, “How would I feel if someone said this about my best friend?” If you wouldn’t like it, give yourself the pep talk you would give to your best friend instead. Addressing your internal dialogue and creating an optimistic voice in your head can positively change the way you view yourself and the world around you.

start a journal 

Start a journal. If you had a diary when you were younger, you know firsthand the importance of having a safe space to explore your inner thoughts. We’re told diaries are for little kids, however, there is scientific proof that journaling is an immensely beneficial self-care practice. Starting a journal practice can help you gain confidence, achieve goals, and reduce stress and anxiety. Explore the many different types of journal practices—dream, gratitude, stream of consciousness, sketch, to-do list—and figure out what works best for you. If you need help getting started, you can find many journals prompts online to assist you while you get comfortable with your new practice. 


Create a healthy habit. When you take care of yourself physically, you reap the mental benefits. Adopting a healthy habit in your life can kickstart major improvements in your life. By getting the recommended amount of sleep every night, you can improve your mood and have more energy during your days. By cutting down on sugar and intaking more nutritious foods, you will receive vital nutrients that help improve your overall well-being. When you schedule exercise, your body gets a dose of endorphins that will extend throughout the day. Start small, but make sure to start.


Read. Whether you read fiction or non-fiction, the benefits of reading are countless. According to a 2009 study at the University of Sussex, reading can reduce stress by up to 68%. Beyond that, our brains are wired for stories. When we settle in the pages of a book, we provide our minds with a safe escape and the ability to explore and empathize with situations we have never faced. Reading also prevents age-related cognitive decline while simultaneously building your vocabulary. Find what you love to read and know that losing yourself between the pages is one of the best ways to take care of yourself.  

Loving yourself is one of the most radically Iconic things you can do for yourself. By making yourself a priority in your life, you are not only helping yourself, but you are acting as an example that will allow those around you to do the same. There is an endless amount of love in the world, so please make sure to direct some of that to yourself and never forget just how Iconic you are, Beauty. 

How are you planning to fall back in love with yourself? Let us know by commenting below or tagging us @IconicBeauty on Instagram!